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Understanding Asperger's Syndrome
Asperger's syndrome, sometimes called "nerd syndrome," is a neurological disorder categorized under the umbrella of Autistic Spectrum Disorders.
Asperger's syndrome has become a controversial diagnosis to describe children exhibiting various difficulties with social behavior. Like autism it affects an individual's ability to successfully interact with others.
Although children with Asperger's syndrome (or AS) can have normal or above normal intelligence, when they start school they often experience difficulty functioning in the social world of the classroom. In fact, it's not unusual for these children to remain unidentified as having Asperger's until starting school. The majority of AS children are diagnosed between the ages of 5 and 11.
"As we become more familiar with the variety of differences in our children, a growing number of school-aged children with impairments in complex social behaviors are being referred for assessments and treatment," says Dr. Mariam King of the Pervasive Developmental Disorders Clinic at the University of California, San Francisco.
What are the symptoms of Asperger's syndrome? Children diagnosed with AS generally show normal development until age 4 in speech, self-help skills and curiosity about the world around them.
A concerned parent should look for many, but not necessarily all, of these signs:
  • Repetitive language
  • Impairment in the use of nonverbal behaviors, such as making eye-to-eye contact
  • Conversation that centers around the self
  • A voice that can be emotionless
  • Eccentric vocal characteristics
  • Dyslexia or other writing problems
  • A tendency to think literally rather than abstractly
  • Clumsy or awkward motor skills
  • Inappropriate or insensitive social behaviors
How common is it? Although scientists have been studying autism since the 1940s, Asperger's syndrome has only been researched intensively in the past few decades. It was initially described by Viennese pediatrician Hans Asperger in 1944, but it wasn't until the 1990s that the disorder was widely recognized in the English-speaking world. As a result, there's a lack of solid data on the prevalence of Asperger's syndrome.
Our understanding of Asperger's is still unfolding, with diagnostic criteria only recently being established in the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) in 1994.
For many years it was thought that one in 166 individuals has an Autism Spectrum Disorder, a range of disorders that includes Asperger's syndrome and the more severe disability, classic autism. In February 2007, new data released by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) indicates that in many areas of the United States the rate of autism in 8-year-olds is as high as one in 150.
What's the difference between autism and AS? An ongoing debate as to whether Asperger's syndrome is a form of high-functioning autism or a unique disorder altogether indicates the current limited state of our knowledge about the disorder.
One prominent researcher, Dr. Tony Attwood of Australia, believes that AS and autism are much more alike than different, and that the terms Asperger's syndrome and high-functioning autism can be used interchangeably.
Others argue that the term high-functioning autism should apply only to children severely impaired early in their history but who go on to improve. AS children, they claim, are fundamentally different in that they do not have early cognitive delays.
"Within the research and clinical fields," says Dr. King, "AS is a pretty controversial diagnostic category. There are some people who think it should be taken out of the DSM because what it's describing are people with autistic disorder that is mild or people with autistic disorder who aren't mentally retarded. There's a huge amount of controversy about that. There's a lot of research about it and the answer to it is unclear."
What causes AS? The cause of autism and AS has not been established, nor has the reason for the startling rise in autism cases.
"What we do know about autistic disorder, and this would include all the categories, is that it has an extremely high heritability rate," notes Dr. King.
Studies have shown that there is a greatly increased chance of having a second child with autism if the first sibling has it. In fact, the chances are about one in 15 that the second child will also have autism. Many parents of AS children have indicated the existence of undiagnosed relatives with similar traits.
Other researchers suggest that toxins in the environment might be the culprit. Most likely, it could be a combination of both factors.
How do children with Asperger's perform in school? Even though they are often very intelligent, and may even show exceptional talent in certain areas, their inability to understand common verbal and non-verbal cues is a major obstacle to fitting in. AS kids are frequently branded as "odd," both by peers and by adults who don't understand the neurological deficit involved.
Unlike most autistic children, AS children want to have friends. They just don't know how to go about getting and keeping them. Patty Romanowski Bashe, co-author of The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome,, and a mother of an AS child, explains, "These kids are not unconnected. They're not unemotional. They just don't have an innate ability to pick up cues from the environment that you and I have. They have a hard time reading voice tones. They have a hard time reading facial expressions. They have a hard time with language that's not concrete. They tend to be more comfortable in what's concrete, what's logical." For example, Bashe remembers saying to her son, "I've told you this until I'm blue in the face." To which he replied with confusion, "But Mom, your face isn't blue."
Asperger's kids can be trained how to form relationships and interact in social situations. "The kids can learn social skills, but you have to teach it like you would teach math," Bashe says.
Common traits of AS children In addition to having to deal with social deficits, AS kids tend to be:
  • Excessively attached to routines and many have obsessive interests
  • Extremely sensitive to sensory input, to the extent that they become agitated by noisy rooms or intense smells and tastes
  • Easily upset by sounds or sights that would go unnoticed by most people
  • Longwinded about their favorite interests and topics of conversation
To complicate matters, about half of AS children also have Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Bashe notes, "They also have a high rate of co-morbidity for things like anxiety disorder, which makes perfect sense when you consider that they have a hard time understanding what's going on with the people around them. So that complicates the picture a lot, too."
Is there a treatment for Aperger's syndrome?? There is no cure for AS. There are, however, many interventions and behavior modifications that can yield positive results. Currently, the treatments include:
  • Individual psychotherapy to help deal with depression, anxiety and/or the inability to handle emotions
  • Parental education
  • Behavioral modification techniques
  • Trainings in acquiring social skills
  • Learning techniques for educational success
  • Drugs for hyperactivity, irritability, aggression, compulsions, and anxiety
How can I help my AS child succeed? "There's a huge increase in how sensitive teachers and clinicians are to developmental learning styles," says Dr. King. "There are a whole bunch of kids that have social and communication problems and learning problems. They aren't retarded. There's been a huge effort to figure out if there are clusters of these kids that fit together into diagnostic patterns."
Here are a few basic steps a parent can take to ensure the best possible educational experience for an AS child:
  • Read the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA), the law that guarantees a right to an appropriate education for all individuals with disabilities.
  • Have your child evaluated by your school's special education specialists.
  • Develop an Individual Education Plan (IEP) for your child with his teacher, principal and the school's special education teachers.
  • Understand the placement options available. An AS child may do better in a regular classroom or in a special education environment.
  • Make sure all adults working with your child know about her special needs.
  • Educate yourself on the many behavior modification resources that exist (for example, The Lovass Institute) to help parents teach self-help and socialization skills to their AS children.
"Kids with Asperger's should have as many opportunities to interact as possible," says Bashe, "such as speech therapy and socialization therapy."
"The key thing I would say to parents" emphasizes Bashe, "is don't let anybody flatter you out of services. Don't let them say, 'He's so smart! He doesn't need that!' If you think your child needs services, you can find them. The first place to go is your school district. And some parents will have to fight."
For long term goals, Bashe suggests parents think about where they want their AS child to be in five to ten years. "Parents need to make sure that Asperger's kids can set the table, fold their clothes, and shower independently. These kids need to know how to make a can of soup. They're so smart that they never cross paths with teachers who would be focused on things like daily living and vocational skills and they really suffer because of that. They're just not observational learners."
Additional Resources Online
Books (in order of publication date)
  • The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome: Advice, Support, Insight, and Inspiration, Patricia Romanowski Bashe and Barbara L. Kirby. Crown, 2005.
  • Asperger Syndrome and Your Child: A Parent's Guide, Michael Powers and Janet Poland. Collins, 2003.
  • Helping Children with Autism Learn: Treatment approaches for parents and professionals, Bryna Siegel. Oxford University Press 2003.
  • A Parent's Guide to Asperger Syndrome and High Functioning Autism: How to meet the challenges and help your child thrive, S. Ozonoff, G. Dawson, and J. McPartland. Guilford Press 2002.
  • Asperger Syndrome and the Elementary School Experience: Practical Solutions for Academic & Social Difficulties, Susan Thompson Moore (editor). Autism Asperger Publishing Company, 2002.
  • Bridging the Gap: Raising a Child with a Nonverbal Learning Disorder, Rondalyn Varney Whitney. Perigee Trade, 2002. (A personal account from a parent.)
  • Eating an Artichoke: A Mother's Perspective on Asperger Syndrome, Echo Fling. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2000. (Another personal account from a parent.)
  • Pervasive Developmental Disorders: Finding a Diagnosis and Getting Help, Mitzi Waltz. O'Reilly, 1999.
  • Asperger's Syndrome: A Guide for Parents, Tony Attwood. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 1997.
Updated February 2007

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10/6/2008:
"Hello: I am a mother of a lovely and great kid diagnosed as gifted with asperger. His name is Jake and he is 6 years old. As a kid with asperger it is very hard to him to understand social behaviors and espress himself properly. I am just feeling that my son's school is not capable to understand and deal with my son issues. He is getting more frustated ,anxious,and depressed just thinking that as soon he does something wrong{for us,not for him} he is going to be out of the classroom and send him to the office.He is in a gifted program but he is also asperger and he is being judge it like the other kids.We need help! I don't want that my son turns in a unhappy , depressed and nervous kid just because the school is not treat him and understanding properly. He is the sweetest boy and veery smart .His school is Riverglades Elementary in Parkland,FL and i need to find the perfect place for my son, where he can feel safe ,understanded and motivate to learn. att. Diana Ocasio"
09/15/2008:
"I am really glad I found this site, it has alot of information in just a few pages. Being thegrandparent of an AS child it gave me infomation on a few places to go to get help for myself so that I can help him. I think it is very important to help the caregiver the skills to help our kids succeed in life. I had no idea what to do to make his life better and I know that I am not alone in this. So thank you for posting this information it is so very important."
02/19/2008:
"I work as a one on one in a New Hampshire School district. (BACKGROUND) I have a son on the Spectrum w/ an IEP (High Functioning), he attends a private school for children with Alternative Educational needs. I also have a daughter with a 504 (due to cancer). I have had experience on both sides of the 'TEAM'. I do NOT have my BA Degree, but do have 3 years Formal Education in Elementary Ed and Psych. I DO have Graduate Level Certification in ASD and have studied under some of the finest Professionals in the country. I love what I do but as a 'Tutor' noone ever asks my perspective on things. This concerns me as... We are the folks down in the trenches, often keeping the other students from badgering and laughing at the AS and ASD kids. We are the ones that see the best and the worst and work with your children everyday. We are the ones that try to implement the 'EXPERTS' plan. (in our district the plan can change in a week). The 'EXPERTS' that spend 15- 30 minutes Assessing your childs behavior are not there for the 'Melt downs' when their Plan doesn't work.. If you are pleased with your childs tutor ask that they be involved with the 'TEAM' discussions. It is very difficult to service AS and ASD children and to allow them to act like children, for example allowing them to blurt out an answer that they know and just can't contain...like other 'Typical' children do when we are forced to hold them to a higher standard than we hold our 'regular' students. I encourage schools to hire people with experience and eduaction in the field of AS and ASD and to ask and cons! ider their thoughts and oppinions. I encourage Parents to ask for the tutors input. WE ARE THE SECOND most important Player on the TEAM, next to you. You are the voice that they need and we can help , if we are asked. Best wishes to all of you that are struggling. FYI - There is an OPRAH website that Jenny Mc Carthy and several other high profile moms are invovled with.Google away and get some help from each other. Don't stand for being intimidated or being called 'crazy'... BE the VOICE in this misunderstood and very REAL Disorder. "
12/18/2007:
"My son is 12 and started Jr. high this year.We have only known about his AS for about 1 and half years. He has always been an 'A' student but this year has been full of what appears to be laziness. He has improved so much in his social setting but has suffered in his grades and he does'nt seem to care. Its hard to know what is kid stuff that just needs a firm hand and what is AS stuff that needs help.I think we need a school in north Fort Worth, Texas that can help children like my Son. If there is such a school please inform me. We are pretty new at this."
11/20/2007:
"I want to offer hope to your readers with a shot of reality. Autism is very different for each person but there is a baseline and/or many similarities among AS. My son's cognitive reasoning for MOST things will not go beyond age 7, BUT he has a college level vocabulary; has difficulty knowing 'which' cartoon is 'real'; and plays the piano with full compositions by hearing them. This is a talent he started a year ago and has since played professionally. His understanding in a few things is now at age 11 and 3/4. He will learn, by habit and being told answers, what is correct. He wants to talk with everyone but it is about HIM. Chris' great progress was due to putting him in a smaller, special school with much less chaos and more one-to-one attention.IEP suggestion: won't work with you, find another school and report it to the Board of Education and your local Senators. Know what is possible; accept what can't be changed (with your child); find the talents and make the skil! ls direct the job or contribution that your child will make in life; if something you need does not exist, create it; and above all, be thankful that your child has you and you have your child as your teacher (and they will teach you much};for your sanity, enjoy life to the fullest. Chris is almost 18 and I learn something every day! I hope this helps someone."
11/14/2007:
"We are currently in the process of relocating to Detroit, MI from South Africa and have a 7 year old mildly apergers son. Could anyone please recommend schools that might be suitable, preferably mainstream, as we have a 12 year old unaffected daughter and would ideally prefer to place them together if possible. With thanks "
10/31/2007:
"I have a 28-year-old Aspie son that was diagnosed about one year ago. He was in mainstream school all his life but had social difficulty for most of it. My wife and I felt that he always just needed to grow a little older and most problems would be eliminated. After graduating from college, he was not able to find employment. He went back to school and obtained a Master Degree but still found no employment. Therefore, we encouraged him to go back to school and get a teaching certificate. After receiving his certificate, he was not even able to get an interview to teach (they say they need teachers all the time). This left him feeling totally lost and he became more angry and emotional. We finally had to take him to see someone that diagnosed him with AS. He did gain employment but is under-employed (has very little wages and no benefits). Being under-employed is a common problem with AS. We help him a little when he needs it and is now living in an apartment and trying to ta! ke care of himself. I feel that we will never eliminate all the problems of AS but we can understand it and dial with it better. "
10/22/2007:
"I live in Copperas Cove, Texas, services here are just no there. My husband is military so we do not always have athe chance to be where a good school is. I do however have a chance to move in the next few months. I am looking for a school that will offer my son what he needs and a price I can afford. My advice for parents comming to Texas, it is a hard fight here, one not often won. "
10/4/2007:
"I live in Rochester, NY and have a 12 yr old Aspie. I homeschooled him until 10 yrs old and then put him in PS. The school is great! They have him mainstreamed with lots of extra help!!! I couldn't have asked for a better district. BUT! you have to keep after the school and keep in contact with all the teachers to ensure that your child is continueing to do well no matter what is in the IEP. My best advice is to have patience and understanding with your child and don't back down to the school when getting things your child needs in his IEP or 504 plan. all in all haveing an Aspie as my child is amazingly wonderful!"
10/1/2007:
"These are great and informative articles; whether or not parents have a child with these conditions, it is interesting to read about the conditions on this website."
10/1/2007:
"My son was diagnosed with Asperger's in Kindergarten. We have been very fortunate to have a teacher that recognized the signs and a school that jumped on it right away. Along with Speech therapy, he also receives Occupational Therapy for his handwriting and daily living skills. Thank you for the keen eye and quick help."
10/1/2007:
"Great article and comments. My 8 year old daughter has Asperger's. She was diagnosed at almost 5 years of age. We moved to TX from FL and she is getting A LOT of wonderful help at school! She is fully mainstreamed into 2nd grade has a 'buddy' of the day to help her out. I am amazed at what our little country school is doing for her every single day! She also is in her third year of dance classes and I'm signing her up for Brownies. Putting her around 'regular' kids has been the best thing for her. When she was 2 or 3 years old I'd have never imagined all her progress!"
09/4/2007:
"I have a 12yrs old son with AS. I knew something was different by the time he was 3. I tried getting him tested and everyone just passed the buck. Finally, when he was 7 I pushed the school into getting him tested.The testing experience was a mix of emotions. I was thankful to finally get a diag. but, sadden by news. Now, I can proudly say my son is doing fine. I've really been working with the school and we have developed a program that works for him. My advice is learn your rights and be your childs voice. Get involved in the IEPs, make suggestions and ask for an autism inclusion specialist every school district should have access to one. They have great ideas on how to adapt the lessons to meet your childs needs"
08/2/2007:
"Hello, I am moving from Maine to Massachusetts and would like to know if anyone is able to tell me if there are any schools in the Boston area that specialize in teaching Asperger's syndrome children? I know that there are programs within public schools in the Newton area that have programs as part of their special ed curriculum. Is there any resource that rates/ranks or outlines public schools with specialized programs? Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. "
07/13/2007:
"My son is 16 and I wonder if he may have a mild form of AS. He makes friends easily but tends to miss social cues that someone is offended or angry. His grades are very good and all his teachers like him, but his organization skills are horrible. His handwriting is small and sloppy. He tends to be very forgetful and is always losing things. He keeps himself neat and clean, but is very sloppy and careless with school papers and important documents. He is all thumbs when it comes to tools and mechanical dexterity, yet he excels in sports. He also tends to get fixated on something and can't get it out of his head, and he can't stand still without rocking. He also has certain ticks he occassionally does uncontiously with his hands. When he was two, he was obsessed with flags. By three he knew every state flag, and then learned every national flag in the United Nations. We got him miniature sets of each from a Rand McNally store. I worry that we may have neglected addressing his ! special need. Any thoughts or comments? THX"
06/20/2007:
"FLORIDA RESIDENTS: If you live in Palm Beach County, there is a special Asperger unit for HIGH SCHOOL STUDENTS at Forest Hill High School; from what I have heard they are having a lot of success with it. I believe Bear Lakes Middle School also has one. Hope this helps. "
01/10/2007:
"In Virginia: In the above articles you'll find advice to 'fight' to get the services through the schools. Follow that advice! My daughter is in 9th grade now and she does have an IEP. She was tested three times and, according to the tests, she showed some ADD and a low IQ. FINALLY she qualified for the IEP through the speech and language department because of a severe deficit in being unable to put together coherent sentences. Honestly, I didn't care how they classified her as long as she got the services she needed to succeed. She's in 9th grade now and doing just great! We've really seen her blossom this year and start to develop those all-important social skills. "
12/20/2006:
"Parents, if you believe in a Christian approach, please check out: www.icando.org It's called the Neurodevelopmental Approach. I am enrolling my son in this program because I cannot get help elsewhere. It costs about $1200 but I do not care about money at this point -- he needs HELP. This is just an alternative to look into if you have been frustrated from the lack of services available for your child."
12/20/2006:
"Moved from Rochester, NY to Austin, TX. School support is NON EXISTANT in Austin, TX!!! My child had no IEP or 504 in NY and was able to get support from the OT and school counselor on a weekly basis. TX thinks I am crazy and are too busy with state testing to see a child on an individual basis. My child is backsliding and no help is available. Not severe enough to require an IEP or 504 I have been told in NY and TX. All they care about are academics in TX of which my son is doing excellent it is the SOCIAL aspect he needs help with. TX doesn't seem to provide help for the WHOLE child. VERY DISAPPOINTING AND A BIG DIS-SERVICE TO MY CHILD AND OTHERS LIKE HIM."
11/29/2006:
"having issues with school in ky also. They act like he has no disability at all!! Will not consider IEP. does have 504 plan but its crazy!!"
11/29/2006:
"Thank you, thank you. It was great to just start looking at this website and find out more information on AS. We are trying to get an IEP for our son and are having a HUGE problem. We are thinking about changing schools because of this issue and or contacting an attorney."
11/27/2006:
"My son in 10 and recently diagnosed with AS. We are in the process of develping an IEP but I feel like I don't know enough. Are there any private schools that specifically work with AS kids? I live in RI. Unlocking the pathway to all the information he does hold in his brain is really tough. He is constantly frustrated and is really smart."
11/21/2006:
"Thanks for the information. My son is 10 and recently diagnosed with AS. I am still learning on the subject myself. I know more on full blown autism. I live in Ky and I am having problems getting an IEP written for him. He is having behavioral problems in school. School doesnt understand. He currently has 504. I need help!! "
11/20/2006:
"One of the most comprehensive, direct and understandable descriptions of AS characteristics online. I would like to see a brochure given to every new parent by the infant's physician describing the early behaviors of AS. My granddaughter's toddler behaviors would have quickly been recognized as AS if we had been aware of the condition and she might have received assistance much earlier. Her preschool actually thought her ability to read but not draw or cut was the result of her mother putting more emphasis on reading and not enough on fine motor skills! Her life, as well as her parents' lives, would have been much improved if any of us had been aware of AS. She is now 9 and in third grade receiving spec ed services. These services are not intensive enough to really improve her life, especially in the realm of social relations. There is really a very big difference between 'autism behaviors' as we understand them and AS and I think this should be acknowledged. My granddaughter always made eye contact, was very verbal, initiated social interaction so we never suspecte! d autism. She was self taught in reading by age three and had an exceptional memory but couldn't make a scribble, talked incessently about her one subject of obsession and was very clumsy. We never suspected autism and, of course, in the brief time a pediatrician spends with a child at each visit, she seemed perfectly normal. Publicity and education of the public are the keys to diagnosis and research for Asperger's and I don't see that happening in the Chicago suburban area. I am also disappointed in the lack of support groups specifically for AS in Chicago's western suburbs. Social training groups are very expensive and not covered by insurance but a key necessity for these children. "
11/17/2006:
"Oh my. My son is 21. He has a son 2 That has been diagnosed with Autism. Learning about Autism seemed to be a revalation about my son. The doctor that diagnosed my grandson said my son should be tested because it seemed that he may have some form of Autism. He hasnt yet been tested but hopefully will be soon. According to the check list my son has all. It explains so much in his life.I wish I would have known of this when he was young. I pray that it isnt too late for my son to get what help is available."
11/3/2006:
"Any parents in the Ventura County area or near Castaic/Valencia area that may be interesting in starting a support group for parents and children. Please drop me a line or call. Sandh20rider@yahoo.com or 805-207-5704. We need to reiterate to these schools that they need to follow our IEP plans. Also that this is becoming a more common condition they need to start making the changes. Who is teaching kids in the schools the social skills they need. Is it really all about math and english.. "
10/26/2006:
"This has been one of the most informative data on as that i have read so far and helps me to understand what is going on with my son and possibly my other son as well. The only problem is getting him evaluated. I live in st.petersburg, florida if you can direct me down the right path i would appreciate it. Thank you."
10/4/2006:
"I would like to respond to 'From Florida 8/14/2006'. They siad 'we would like to hear parents saying'now, after all we have done my kid is doing fine.'' That what I'm hear to do. My son was ignored by the pre-school and so we didn't realize his behavior concerned anyone. We are very proactive and immediatelly entered therapy. He was diagnosed with Asperger's before entering kindergarten. I did not inform the school, however, they called us within a 10 school days concerned about behavior. By that January my son was classified by special services with autism, his accomodations were set in motion immediately and when he started 1st grade he had a full-time aide. He is doing FINE, socially and academically. He is in a main stream class setting and has friends. Although we have our moments, and some are extreme, they are far and few between and he understands what he needs to do. We are fortunate to have the resources to do a great deal privately, but the school distr! ict has made a tremendous difference. Every must be pro-active to get the services these children need."
09/5/2006:
"We also are in Florida, transplanted from NY in early 2004. Be glad your child is 5, I have a 15 year old with aspergers who wasn't diagnosed till he was 12. I am now looking for residential placement here in FL due to his behaviors, not that we are having any luck. The diagnosis must be autism, not aspergers, you can't just get them on medicaid, you need to get them on the waiver, and that's only after 3 baker acts, it can also take 6 months to 3 years to get them on the waiver. The schools are a joke, my son is in the 11th grade but on a 4th grade math level. His 9 year old brother can do the 15 year olds homework quicker."
08/14/2006:
"Florida. We are going through all that with my 5 years old. Trying everything we can to get a good school/help, but what I really curious to know/hear is if there is someone with a 100% improvement. We would like to hear parents saying 'now, after all we have done my kid is doing fine, going to a regular school w/ good grades and all'..."
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